1.12.2009

When will it all be over?

No matter how many times I fall and hit my head on the rock I just DON'T learn.

Ugh. I don't know how many times the story needs to be repeated for me to finally understand and get the point.

I'm sad and I feel like crying, I'm angry, too, but at the same time a million thoughts are running through my mind at full speed.

Every time I start giving the benefit of the doubt and ASSUME things can possibly get better...because we never know what the future holds, I just get taken back and slapped in the face with reality.

You are a father to be--probably one of the hardest news that I ever had to deal with.

The fact that you got married was hard enough, but I always told myself, "there's always divorce."

But now?...Now you are gonna be a father! A commitment that lasts a lifetime.

And not saying that we we're gonna ever get back together, but we never knew what the future held. But now? Now there is no chance at all.

I refuse to let you keep hurting me. What I don't understand is why you keep coming around? Why you keep looking for me?

Is it guilt?

Are you trying to smooth your way into telling me yourself?

I don't know what you want from me. I found out on my own and you have no idea I know yet.

But I'm waiting for your call because I'm officially done with this whole situation, that you have once again dragged me into after I was doing great moving on and forgetting all about you.

I was very much happy but then I found myself coming back to this...it's hurting and killing me because now the both of you will be attached forever.

I guess it's time for me to let it go and move on.

No matter how much I decided not to accept it.

Maybe I've been getting signs that I refuse to accept, but for some reason the signs keep getting worse. This is more like a slap in the face.

This is going to take me some time...maybe a lot of time.
(sigh) I don't know what to think anymore.

I keep holding my tears back as I sit here and reminisce. Trying to figure out why we never worked.

We lived together and I was practically your wife. You never decided to propose to me, let alone marry me. We spoke about having children a million times and tried and tried.

I guess it wasn't meant to be or meant for me. No matter how much we tried, I couldn't get pregnant.

Those that know me, know how I feel about having kids. It's a big deal to me. I want lots of kids. Now the fact that you are having them with her...well how should I feel?..

Mrz Endy

What Makes Good Web Writing?


Two uber-popular websites have some standards as to what qualifies as good web writing.

Suite101.com and BleacherReport.com have over 12 million readers every month, and over 2 million every month, respectively.

Both were created by professionals, and media professionals have formed partnerships with or write for the sites, as well--so I expect them to know a thing or two about good web-writing.

Each site has about 10 tips and hints of what makes your material stand out, and the similarities are evident--these similarities are probably what you would put your money on as most helpful and effective.

So what does a good, aspiring writer do? S/he learns from them.

Suite101's Top 10 Rules


1. Write tightly-focused, specific articles that are authoritative and cite trusted sources.

2. Assume a reader's cursory knowledge of the subject, but explain for the layperson.

3. Insure copy is unique, balanced, exclusive, and free of sales pitches or pure opinion.

4. Write in the third-person reportage style and keep personal anecdotes for blogs.

5. Proof for spelling and punctuation errors, tired language, or general/weak statements.

6. Title your article as transparently as possible, reflecting the key search terms/phrases.

7. Get to the point in the lead paragraph and proceed convincingly from there.

8. Use 50-75-word paragraphs, bold subheadings, and bulleted lists for easy reading on screen.

9. Link to up to 5 related on- and off-site articles, with keyword anchor text organically embedded.

10. Attach a clear and appropriate colour photo, properly credited and captioned.



BleacherReport's Writing Tips


Impressing the Search Engines

Search engine optimization begins and ends with keywords. Articles with vague or esoteric headlines don’t draw many readers for the simple reason that they don’t appear on many popular search listings. If you want people to read your work, you have to put it where they’re going to find it—which means being mindful both of which keywords you choose and how your order them in the headline.


a. Choosing Keywords

In choosing keywords to include in your headline, it’s important to balance specificity and mass appeal. If your aim is too narrow, you’ll get buried in your own niche. If your aim is too broad, you’ll get lost in the World Wide Shuffle.

Personal names (both first AND last) are generally the most effective traffic-generating keywords. Events and team names (both city/school and mascot) are next on the list, followed by divisions, conferences, and leagues.

Your primary goal should always be to include first and last personal names in your headline. If that strategy isn’t a fit with your article, you should next target events and team names. If that still doesn’t yield a match, you should turn to divisions, conferences, and leagues as a last resort.

Poor choice of keywords:
“Irish Eyes Are Weeping”

Better choice of keywords: “Notre Dame Football Drops the Ball”

Best choice of keywords: “Charlie Weis, Notre Dame Football Drop the Ball”


b. Ordering Keywords

Keywords at the beginning of a headline are weighted more heavily by search algorithms than those at the end. With that in mind, it’s important to lead with your “best” keywords—i.e. those which are most likely to attract readers who are going to want to read your article.

As a general rule, you should aim to order your keywords according to their effectiveness in generating traffic:

1. Personal Names

2. Events and Teams

3. Divisions, Conferences, and Leagues

If you work within that framework, you’ll give your article the best chance of earning a strong search ranking—and you’ll give potential readers the best opportunity to sample what you’re trying to sell.

Poor use of keywords:
“NBA: Boston Celtics Ride Kevin Garnett to Finals Win”

Better use of keywords: “Boston Celtics Ride Kevin Garnett to NBA Finals Win”

Best use of keywords: “Kevin Garnett Leads Boston Celtics to NBA Finals Win”


Attracting the Searchers

Given the emphasis on search engine optimization in the online publishing world, it’s easy to forget that search engines are themselves merely conduits to real-live human beings. Sure, it’s important to appeal to the Google computers with your headline. But it’s even more important to appeal to the searchers who’ll actually be reading your work.

To that end, you should always be mindful of three distinct criteria in writing your headlines: specificity, readability, and “clickability.” Doing so will endear you to the living, breathing people on the other side of cyberspace—which if nothing else is a whole lot more satisfying than making friends with a search algorithm.


a. Specificity

Remember, potential readers can only judge your article by the headline that gets listed with syndicated search results. With that in mind, it’s important that the title communicate exactly what the piece is about—in order to help searchers find exactly what they’re looking for.

As noted above, vague or esoteric headlines fail to generate traffic because they fail to advertise the product to search-engine users. As is true of any transaction, buyers (or in this case, readers) won’t commit if they don’t know what they’re getting into. Specific headlines convey precise and relevant information to searchers, and thus encourage those searchers to take the plunge with your work.

Vague headline: “MLB Prospects: You Will Know Their Names Soon”

Specific headline:
“Jay Bruce, Evan Longoria Top List of MLB Prospects”


b. Readability

The importance of readability in headline text speaks to the fact that there’s an actual person on the other side of the search process. You’re not writing for an algorithm, after all; you’re writing for a human being, and to that end you should be sure that your headline reads naturally rather than mechanically.

The most natural headlines—the most “human” headlines—are those which present themselves as readable, keyword-rich units rather than mere amalgamations of keywords. Before publishing, you should always ask yourself whether your headline would make sense if you said it out loud. If it does, you’re in business. If not, it may be time for a rethink.

Awkward Headline: “NBA Draft, No. 2 Pick: Miami Heat Sitting Pretty”

Readable Headline: “Miami Heat Sitting Pretty in NBA Draft with No. 2 Pick


c. “Clickability”

“Clickability” is the most abstract of the criteria outlined here, but in many ways it’s also the most obvious.

Again, Internet readers have plenty of options when they search for sports-related content. If you want people to choose you, you have to actively compete for eyeballs—which means using your headline to differentiate yourself from all those other hack writers out there.

A clickable headline is any which makes searchers want to read YOUR article instead of the next one. Although it’s hard to pin down exactly what’s clickable and what isn’t, there are four fundamental techniques that will help you put your best foot forward:


1. Take a Stand

Most Bleacher Report submissions are written with an editorial bent, and thus are naturally distinct from the bulk of generic, fact-based content on the Internet. The best Bleacher Report headline, in turn, is that which conveys the nature of an article’s editorial position.

As a general rule, Internet readers are drawn to articles that make arguments instead of merely regurgitating information. The more forceful a stand you take in your headline, the more likely you are to attract people to your work.

Bland headline: “NBA: Nets Acquire Yi Jianlin From Bucks”

Clickable headline: “With Yi Jianlin, Nets Primed for Great Leap Forward”


2. Ask a Question, or Hint at an Answer

Mystery is always more compelling than certainty. In writing headlines, your best bet is to hint at the substance of your article without giving away the whole story.

The strategy here often entails asking a question, or adding “Why” or “How” to your title. The bottom line is that you want to be suggestive in order to be provocative. Anything you can do to stimulate the curiosity of potential readers will help to drive search traffic to your work.

Bland headline: “Nick Saban Dismisses Jimmy Johns from Alabama Football Team”

Clickable headline: “Why Nick Saban Dismissed Jimmy Johns from the Alabama Football Team”


3. Make a List

For reasons known only to David Letterman and VH1, people love lists. That’s especially true of Internet readers, who will flock to headlines which promise “The Top Five” or “The Ten Best” of just about anything.

All list articles should be advertised as such in their headlines. You’d also do well to repackage non-list articles with list-like headlines.

Bland Headline:
“Fantasy Baseball Pickups: Week Five”

Clickable Headline: “The Top Seven Fantasy Baseball Picks Up for Week Five”


4. Overstate Your Case…Or Understate It

The final key to headline clickability lies in your choice of qualifying adjectives. To attract potential readers, you should always aim to either overstate or understate your position.

Hyperbolic headlines make articles more salient for search-engine users. The more dramatically you package your article, the more likely you are to drive traffic to it.

Bland Headline:
“NBA Draft: Second Round Picks Who Became Stars”

Clickable Headline: “The Best Second Round Picks in NBA Draft History”

Understated headlines, on the other hand, play upon the general appeal of mystery and uncertainty. Understated qualifiers include words like “might,” “could,” and “should,” and can lend an air of intrigue to an otherwise plain title.

Bland headline: “Why the Chicago Cubs Will Win the World Series”

Clickable Headline: “Why the Chicago Cubs Could (or Should or Might) Win the World Series”

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If there’s one lesson to learn about headlines, it’s that the title often makes or breaks the story. Given the search-centric nature of Internet traffic, you can’t expect to attract readers to your work if you don’t package it well. Whenever you publish, always be mindful of the extent to which searchers will judge your articles by their headlines—and always promote your submissions with as much effort as you put into writing them.-Bleacher Report Inc.


Feedback: Some rules are great for web-journalism, but some raw opinion is desired and very much necessary in writing. The keep it short, get to the point, and visual effects rules are dead-on. IMO (of course.)

Some of the similarities of these two gurus are short, focused, concise, passionate, and accurate articles filled with keywords to improve your searches. Also, not to be forgotten, the inclusion of links and pictures make your article interactive and easy to assess.